Roadblocks to Forgiveness in Relationships

Richard Nicastro, Phd, takes a closer look at some of the obstacles to forgiveness in intimate relationships.   Imagine this scenario: Your spouse/partner has wounded you in some way. S/he has now expressed what feels like genuine remorse to you. Maybe you’ve even said you accept the apology you were offered, but now you’re wondering whether

Lessons from Writing Letters to Strangers

Elise Hu, NPR correspondent and Millennial (the “loneliest generation”), shares her need for connection during the global pandemic.  In her worry and loneliness she wrote letters to 50 strangers across America.  A week into California’s stay-at-home order, when our now-familiar mix of anxious, lonely and restless feelings were still brand new, I craved connection. But

Surfing the Crimson Wave: Your Guide to Period Sex

Some have a stigma that period sex is gross, weird, or unsanitary, but in reality, the lived experience is often much less intimidating than it seems (especially depending on where you are in your cycle) and there’s nothing nasty or unhygienic about it. It can actually feel surprisingly liberating, and has some PMS and symptom-relieving

The Slutty Girl’s Guide to Anal Sex

Anal Sex Many women see these two words together and cringe. There are many misconceptions about anal sex , and rumors of the pain and mess that anal sex can cause often scare people away from trying it. If you’re unaware of the right way to have anal sex, the experience can end up being just like the rumors –

8 Types of Orgasms and How to Have Them

While much has been known and accepted about the male orgasm for years, the female orgasm (or orgasm for anyone with a vagina) has been considered a myth, a lie, and an impossibility in the past. It’s now acknowledged that a person with a vagina can not only have multiple orgasms , but they can

Sync Sex with your Cycle

I’ve had an epiphany of sorts just recently. Nothing in my life is static. This came about from reading Naturopathic doctor, Alisa Vitti ’s book, WomanCode: Perfect Your Cycle, Amplify Your Fertility, Supercharge Your Sex Drive, and Become a Power Source . The most important thing I learned from this book is that we do

Men Who Chase Shadows: Secrets, Lies and Acting Out

“Why did I do it? I love my wife, I have so much to lose, why?!” Many of the men I work with are seeking answers to questions like the one above. They’ve acted in ways they later regret and, at some point, they had to face the painful fallout of their actions: a devastated

How Will You Be Different?

As the weeks cascade into months of avoidance of our human kind to save lives, new norms are settling in.  How strange to think that not so long ago seeing people with their faces covered by masks in the grocery store would be markedly odd yet now it’s expected and nobody gives pause.  Teachers, kids

How to Know if You Are Ready For a Threesome

You’ve been with your partner for a few months and things are going well. They get along with your woefully critical friends, their sense of humor meshes seamlessly with your cynical sarcasm, and even your finicky cat doesn’t mind their five-night-a-week presence. And then they pop the question: Would you ever be down for a

The Definitive Guide to Get Rid of a Hickey

You wake up looking like you went out with a vampire who was cheating on his blood-free diet. It’s going to be hard to convince your friends, parents, or boss that you got hit in the neck with a golf ball last night. So, what do you do? If you don’t want to wear a