Navigating Divorce When Your Ex Chooses to Soil the Nest
Despite the decline in divorce rates, emotional disconnect, lack of emotional safety , and unresolved conflict (including chronic bickering) remain leading contributors to relationship breakdowns. What remains consistent is the impact. Couples always have a choice in how they navigate the deconstruction of their unions, a layered onion involving complex emotions, behavior choices impacting children,
What to Do If We Bicker Too Much
Key Takeaways Bickering can point to deeper issues in the relationship, not just surface-level disagreements. Strengthening emotional safety can reduce conflict and create more space for connection. Feelings of unlovability or lack of emotional availability often fuel repetitive arguments. Healthy communication, patience, and mutual empathy are crucial to moving past cycles of bickering. Recognizing the
Ask Lisa: Relationship with a busy partner
A woman wonders how to establish emotional safety with a partner whom she loves but who 80 hours a week in a residency program. The Question to Lisa I am a 27 yr old professional in a new relationship (4 months) with a guy who just started a residency program which means he works about 80
Why AI is Not a Replacement for Therapy
Key Takeaways AI tools can be helpful, but they can’t replace the emotional depth of a trained human therapist. The question of whether AI can truly provide empathy and human connection is central to understanding its limitations. Therapy is built on shared emotional experiences, which AI lacks. Concerns around whether AI is safe and private
Ask Lisa : My boyfriend and his female co-worker text each other constantly
Trust is a pillar of any healthy relationship. When broken, it can lead to insecurity and hurt. Healthy boundaries, open communication and maintaining emotional safety are all also important, particularly avoiding behaviors that create insecurity. A woman asks Lisa about whether it’s appropriate for her to be uncomfortable with the frequency of texting between her
Deconstructing Bickering in Relationships
Richard Nicastro, PhD examines why couples fight and proposes that bickering isn’t always the way it seems. Though bickering can clearly be problematic, he proposes the possibility that sometimes it might be fun. Key Takeaways Bickering is often harmless—but clarifying. It’s a form of communication, not abuse, and can help release stress or tension. Stress-driven
Ask Lisa: Uncomfortable with my boyfriend’s relationship with his female friend
Trust, once broken, can feel really challenging to mend. However, with consistent effort, vulnerability, and a genuine commitment to change, it can be rebuilt. A woman asks Lisa how to regain trust in her relationship. Lisa’s response to her offers steps to do this, emphasizing open communication, consistent actions, and the creation of emotional safety
Ask Lisa : Lack of Emotional Safety in My Relationship
A woman shares her concern about the lack of emotional safety in her relationship and her challenge with getting him to understand what she needs from him. The Question to Lisa “I read your article on emotional safety, and it seems to be lacking in my recent relationship. I had been dating a guy on
The Under-the-Radar Relationship Killer
Sometimes the biggest relationship problems are not the loudest. Be most concerned about the issues that go unspoken, especially if conflict avoidance is normal for both partners. Key Takeaways Subtle, consistent negativity or lack of emotional presence is often the “relationship killer” we ignore. Quiet forms of disconnection—like emotional withdrawal, conflict avoidance, or silent treatment—can
How to Create Emotional Safety in Your New Relationship
Dating these days can be challenging as it is with dating app swipe culture and the overall uncertainty of trying to figure out who another person is. Through the process, an important things to keep your eye on is the presence of emotional safety. Key Takeaways Emotional safety is the foundation of intimacy, trust, and
